My Biggest Mistake

There are a lot of blogs I like to write and want to write.

This one here is more out of necessity.

It is no secret Rehab Time has grown worldwide in the 2 short years since we started it. A lot of people think that Rehab Time is built on success. Yes, it is successful, however, our foundation was built on truth. It was not necessarily built on knowing how to lead people the right way, but by being vulnerable and open enough with people to show them the wrong path’s we’ve been down.

This was to accomplish two goals.

1) Prevent people from making our mistakes.

2) To show people out there, regardless of circumstance, someone is going through it with you.

Without further adieu, this is me. Here’s my Biggest Mistake. Here’s my truth.

I’ve always been labeled a “success.”  I made great grades in school, played collegiate football at the highest level (Big XII) on scholarship, received a master’s degree from Baylor University, and since I graduated in 2006, I have worked for no one but myself. Along with Trent, aside from starting Rehab and seeing it’s growth, we ran and performed for a highly successful rock/rap band, “Game 7,” and lived and saw the things you see when you think of rock stars.  I’ve been fortunate to reach a lot of people, influence and help a lot of lives, and grow a large following.

The other day, Trent said, “if you don’t know where I’ve been, how can you appreciate where I am?”  Truer words were never spoken.  I’m deemed a success, ironically, and though they always tell you “money isn’t everything” and “fame isn’t’ all it’s cracked up to be,” it never means anything until you lose something or someone that matters a lot.

You know me for who I am and what I tweet, speak, write, etc.…but let me rewind a few years, before my growth, before Rehab Time. Let me let you all in on my biggest mistake.

I had an amazing girl.  She was there for me, believed in me, and supported me when literally no one else did. She would have given me the world, and she did.  What did I do? I took it for granted. I had good intentions, but I put success, money, a quest for fame…I put all those meaningless things ahead of her, because in my mind, once I achieved those things, then we could go live our lives happily together.

Let me tell you something. Life doesn’t work that way. You don’t get the king’s castle and then go back and get the queen.  A Real man builds the castle WITH his queen.

My mom told me that, my brother told me that, my good friends all told me to treat her better or I’d lose her.  I didn’t listen; I was blinded by the spotlights and the visions of grandeur.  Somehow though, God used everyone in my life to try to warn me. I ignored it and I did things “Baylor’s way.”

Baylor’s way, in my mind, was go get the money, come back, buy her the world, and all sins are forgiven. Guess what I learned? Money doesn’t buy a broken heart. You know what else? If someone really loves you, they don’t care if you have a trillion dollars or if you don’t have a penny to your name. That’s love.  That’s real. I didn’t see it.

And I lost her.

I blamed it on her not seeing “my vision.” I blamed it on “my drive.”

You know what it really was?  Arrogance, Ego, and Pride.

Looking back, I can’t even believe she stayed with me for the 3.5 years we stayed together. I don’t know how she held on that long. I really don’t.  Somewhere she needs a medal, an award, or something.

The bottom line is, it took a whole lot for me to push her away.

Men, if you listen to nothing else I ever say, listen to this:

When you push a woman past her breaking point, she’s gone. Trust Me. You won’t know when and you won’t know why, but you’ll know she’s gone.

And that’s my biggest mistake. I put money over love; I put spotlights and facades over someone who truly cared about me.  And one day, the spotlights turned of and It was just me….in the dark….alone.

My advice to those who have made the same mistakes; use it as a growing experience.  Use your growth as a tool to help others grow. They say no mistake is truly a mistake if you grow, learn, and apply those lessons to your future.

I’m not the only one that has made relationship mistakes, but hopefully my Biggest Mistake can prevent you from making yours.

-Baylor

If you want to hear the song, read the lyrics, or buy “Biggest Mistake,” You can do So Here.

PS. I’m Sorry.